The Final Goodbye to Our Father

It was an awesome day in in the North Coast, by any standard, with few clouds, letting the Sun in; you could not ask for a better spring day. Today was about six months in the planning with organizing, and preparation, and as all that hard work came together as we arrived in Prince Rupert, BC just after high noon today, the moment finally came. For the first time in nearly fifteen years, my mother and (almost all of) my sisters, met under one roof. Like planets in rare alignment, it truly was a unique and special day. Though there was a purpose to all of this, to see the family again was awesome. Today it was a time to let go, and realise the ashes of our father back to Nature, and with it, one last goodbye.

Although he never decreed what is wishes were for his ashes, we as a family took the initiative and choose to place them where his favourite places on the Earth were. Half went to his home town in Ontario, and the other half stayed in British Columbia, his final home for three quarters of his life. My second youngest sister held on to his ashes for nearly fifteen years since his passing, waiting for the opportunity for us all to gather as a family, before taking them to their final resting place.

We choose the harbour becuase that is where he spent his past time, on the water in his sail boat, and among his friends there who also loved the water. The ocean was special to him, and his sailing was his lifeblood, and together this was his freedom. We even found out that his very own sail boat was still in the harbour, moored just five minutes away from where he kept it during his ownership. Truly amazing considering that was nearly thirty years ago when he owned it.

We each took a turn to pour his ashes into the ocean water, until the there were none left. It was Mother who did the last goodbye. Then, when all was done, we feasted as a family in celebration with food and drink, then told the stories with laughter, and when all was said and done, we left for our homes in the sunset’s light saying goodbye to the day, getting ready for next.

My compliments to Suzette for taking this photo.

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